For example, why do you use this T-chart teaching? Why should a person fill out their T-chart? The first reason is when you write these things down, if there’s a sting associated with some negative thought, it literally takes a lot of the sting out. We frequently get questions about T-charts. And then we pause, change the thought, change the feeling, and change the action. Many of us are in the kind of relationships with each other right now that we can just say T, F, A out loud. It’s that little tap that generally means T, F, A. So right then, they know to just go ahead and change the thought, change the feeling, and change the action. In other words, those taps are a reminder that the way they’re behaving right now is not consistent with the way they say they want to be. When we do that little tap, it just means T, F, A. We just tap three little taps on the table or tap them lightly on their shoulder. In our company and in many of the companies we work with, if we see someone behaving in a way we know they don’t want to, we have a little code that we use sometimes when those of us in relationship ask for this kind of feedback. I encourage you to fill out your T-chart and see what happens as you do that. When we can do this, our impact is significantly different. The more positive actions we have, the more positive behavior we have. The more positive feelings we have, the more positive actions we have. The more positive thoughts we have on a daily basis, the more positive feelings we are going to have. Write those thoughts down and then think about how can you might take those negative ones and reduce them, how you might even turn them into positive thoughts, and how you might even find a way to remove some of the negative thoughts entirely and have more positives than negatives. How do you impact family? How do you impact co-workers? How do you impact the sphere where you have influence? I know that may not feel good, but then ask yourself, when you feel this way, how do you behave. Take a negative thought you believe to be true about yourself, write it down on the right side of your T-chart opposite the positive thought at the top of the page and dwell on that negative thought for a moment. Now go back and do the same thing with a negative thought you have about yourself. How do you behave? How do you impact those people around you when you’re feeling this way? Then think about the times, the days, the hours when you are feeling that feeling and about how you act when you have that feeling. As you think about one of those positive thoughts, what feeling do you get? Dwell on that feeling for a moment. Write two or three of those down on your T-chart. Now, think about some positive thoughts you have about yourself and dwell on those for a moment. You’ve just created a T-chart that you can use for this exercise I’d like to invite you to engage in. Then on the right side opposite that, write Negative Action. Finally, in the bottom third of your T-chart page, below the space for positive feelings, write Positive Action. On the right side of the vertical line below the space for negative thoughts, write Positive Feeling. Give yourself some space on the page and then write Positive Feeling on the left of the vertical line and below the space you have saved for positive thoughts. On the top to the right of the vertical line, write Negative Thought. On the left of the vertical line at the top left above the horizontal line, write Positive Thought. Take a piece of paper and draw a line across the top and down the middle. Here’s how to go about filling out a T-chart. If you complete the T-chart, it will change your life. I’m going to ask you to get really focused any time you hear the word T-charts because they are life-changing. One of the ways we can continue on this path of personal transformation is to use something we call T-charts. Let’s talk about how we examine ourselves to do that. Let’s take a few moments and think about whether we have anything in our self-identity we might want to change and if we have anything in our thought processes that we might want to change.
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